Life and everything else

  • The road - “It’s a dangerous business, Frodo, going out of your door,” he [Bilbo] used to say. “You step into the Road, and if you don’t keep your feet, there is no knowing where you might be swept off to.” Bilbo knew what he was talking about! Whether the road is literal or figurative or, as I … Continue reading The road
  • Don’t finish what you start - When I was in my 20s (shockingly long time ago that was!), reading The Far Pavilions got me interested in learning more about the Khyber Pass, so I bought a book on it. Despite the interesting subject matter, the book was the most boring book I had ever read. Even though my boyfriend suggested I … Continue reading Don’t finish what you start
  • Love Language - Originally posted on Not Inclined To Resign To Maturity:
    Love languages have been on my mind lately, in part because of Skype conversations with my oldest sister, Melissa. We haven’t actually discussed love or love languages, but what we have done is engaged in amusing ways to say goodbye to each other as we sign…
  • Beauty for Elka - When my friend Jeff married Elka several years ago, I lucked out because while at first she was ‘Jeff’s wife,’ over the years she became ‘my friend Elka.’ I remember saying to Jeff one night, as he drove me to my train after a visit, that I liked Elka more and more every time I saw her. About … Continue reading Beauty for Elka
  • Be of good cheer - New Year’s Day is generally a non-event for me. Sure, if I’m with people, I’ll enjoy whatever rituals and traditions they have, but I don’t expect to feel that life has been ‘rebooted’ and is all bright and shiny just because the calendar says it’s the start of a new year. This year, though, I … Continue reading Be of good cheer
  • The fabric of life - Sadly, I went to a funeral yesterday in Stia. A local shopkeeper, someone my friend Catherine and I knew from numerous visits to his shop, died tragically. Although we had committed to attending a workshop at the wool museum, we knew we had to attend the funeral Mass. It didn’t matter that neither of us … Continue reading The fabric of life
  • Working the dream - A couple retires, buys a RV, and takes to the road, planning to spend time with children and grandchildren and explore the highways and byways of their country. A woman fulfills a lifelong dream of moving to Europe, which among other things gives her easier access to the opera performances so important to her. Another woman spends … Continue reading Working the dream
  • Letting go - When I moved to Italy last fall, my friend Elka was starting her second year of cancer treatment. Although I had been emailing her and responding to posts on her CaringBridge site, I felt badly that because I was living in various cities distant from her, I couldn’t provide the kind of support other friends could, … Continue reading Letting go
  • Books, comforting - “Then would you read a Sustaining Book, such as would help and comfort a Wedged Bear in Great Tightness?” * Casting about recently for something to read, I realized that what I really wanted was to reread a book – one that I knew would be absorbing, allow me to fall into another world, and … Continue reading Books, comforting
  • Facebook and mindfulness - When the season of Lent started in February, I happened to be IMing with my sister. She mentioned that she was giving up Facebook for Lent and although I am not a member of her religion, I said I would too. It was partly to keep her company and partly because I thought it was … Continue reading Facebook and mindfulness
  • Assume good will - Several years ago, I logged onto the website of a car-sharing service of which I was a member. I wanted to reserve a car, but when I tried to do so, I got a message saying that my account had been cancelled. My immediate reaction was ‘what is wrong?’ followed by ‘oh no, are they blaming … Continue reading Assume good will
  • New Year’s Day - I’m not a fan of New Year’s resolutions; I think my coach has the right idea (Resolutions … Bah Hum Bug!). However, I occasionally take the approach of starting the new year as I mean to go on, not in all aspects (the day is not long enough), but in one or two. I’m not fanatic … Continue reading New Year’s Day
  • A Christmas wish - Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow Airport. General opinion’s starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don’t see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often, it’s not particularly dignified or newsworthy, … Continue reading A Christmas wish
  • Home, for now - Two years ago, when I told a lifelong friend that I had closed my apartment and put my stuff in storage (see Two Years a Vagabond), she replied that she wondered if my travels would bring me to a place that would tell me “this is my new home.” In a way I did not … Continue reading Home, for now
  • Two years a vagabond - In one of my first posts on this blog, I wrote about how a ‘brush with death’ accident changed my perspective on life. That changed perspective led to one of the more major changes I’ve made: two years ago this month, I closed my apartment in Providence, put my belongings in storage, and became a vagabond. … Continue reading Two years a vagabond
  • Stuff about stuff - Earlier this year, I took advantage of a sojourn in Providence to go through the clothing I had in my storage space. I tried on everything and discarded two bags of clothing that didn’t fit or wasn’t in good condition. It wasn’t until this summer that I realized I had overlooked some clothing that was in a … Continue reading Stuff about stuff
  • The space in which we live - “The space in which we live should be for the person we are becoming now, not for the person we were in the past.” “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up”, Marie Kondo  
  • A lovely thought - This morning, I donated some clothing to a local organization that provides work-appropriate clothing to low-income people who are completing training or educational programs. As I was filling out the donation form, I chatted with the woman who took in the clothing, saying that I hoped the recipients would wear the clothing in good health and on their way to a … Continue reading A lovely thought
  • Life goes on - For me, as I imagine for others, one of the hardest parts about the death of a loved one is that life goes on. I remember walking to work a couple of weeks after my dad died and wondering how the sun could shine. Although the circumstances of my mother’s death were different (see Grief in … Continue reading Life goes on
  • The Boys in the Boat - This weekend, I finished reading The Boys in the Boat by Daniel James Brown, a book my sister-in-law had recommended. This morning, I picked it up again to read the last couple of chapters and all I can say is ‘read this book!’ Brown tells the story of nine working-class American boys who rowed for gold … Continue reading The Boys in the Boat